You’d think this would come naturally. What does come naturally is our IQ – which is largely irrelevant in terms of success and meaning in life. Relational intelligence or Emotional Intelligence is knowing how to relate to others in ways that are meaningful to you and them.  Jesus called us to love our neighbours as ourselves. RI is choosing not to allow our self-preoccupation to get in the way of that. Jesus said to treat others as you would like to be treated. RI is not just knowing that – but putting it into practice. Jesus told His followers to love one another as He had loved them. RI is learning to lovingly relate to other flawed people. RI is being willing to risk rejection and then take responsibility for initiating friendship, kindness, forgiveness and generosity. Relational Intelligence is being the friend you’ve always wanted to have.